It isn’t for everyone but I decided to throw a little party… a BoobyQ a few days before my op. This was for several reasons, playing hostess to 35-40 people gave me something to focus on. I could throw my efforts in to organising food, invites, themed goods- the works. Being a teacher and having my op date in August meant I had a fair bit of time on my hands to think about my operation. Being a generally anxious person I knew this time would not be a gift. Therefore, having this party to focus on really helped. It also helped others be more open and feel less awkward about my operation. I have 4 brothers, the last thing they want to talk about is their sister’s boobs! But this way it made it more open and acceptable to talk about. I also felt it important for people to see how I wanted to deal with it. I could be doom and gloom, feeling sorry for myself and dwelling on this huge, life changing decision I had made…. But what good would that do me?! I didn’t want people feeling like they had to tread on egg shells around me, especially those who are closest, as they will naturally worry. Having a little boobyq showed people that I was ok and had the made decision with a happy heart. Yes, it is a big thing, but it was a logical choice for me.
What People Will Say
Generally, people are shocked and unsure what to say. Then there are those that will make it sound exciting with the prospect of ‘getting new boobs’. This will irritate you as essentially it belittles the life changing experience you are going through- but they don’t know what to say so this seems to be the ‘go to comment’. As much as I have tried to explain that the results will not necessarily be cosmetically pleasing and the process is so much more than ‘getting new boobs’… they still fall back to those comments. How you deal with this is up to you, I felt like tackling it was another battle and perhaps they were saying those things to reassure themselves that everything was ok. What is happening and the choices you are making are big, and although I am very much a person who believes this is a logical choice, it still really gets on your tits when someone makes it sound like boob job! If only it was all that simple! However, I decided that I could not be cross and naivety or other people’s anxiety.